Guide to a Friendly Divorce

Going through the breakup of a marriage is never easy. Unfortunately, animosity between you and your spouse can make reaching divorce-related agreements more difficult. This delays getting a final divorce order while costing you additional time and money. A friendly divorce is preferable. Our experienced Chicago divorce attorneys offer tips to guide you through the process.

Five Steps for a Friendly Divorce

The American Psychological Association (APA) reports that between 40% and 50% of couples eventually end up getting a divorce. While it is natural to feel animosity toward your spouse or even want to use divorce proceedings as a way of getting revenge, this is likely to work against you in the end. 

Taking a friendly approach can reduce the overall amount of stress you experience during divorce proceedings. It also makes it easier to resolve important issues, helping you get the best possible outcome in any settlement. How do you put aside negative feelings so that a friendly divorce is possible? These five steps can help: 

1. Let go of the past.

While you may not be ready to forgive your spouse, you can work on accepting what has happened. Rather than focusing on bad times during your marriage or your disappointment in your spouse’s behavior, focus on the present and resolving the current issues you face. 

2. Set realistic expectations.

Unrealistic expectations create conflicts in a divorce. For example, being unwilling to negotiate on marital property and demanding more than your fair share puts your spouse in a defensive position and sabotages negotiations. 

3. Plan for the future.

Rather than thinking about the loss of your marriage, focus on the fresh start a divorce can provide. Be practical about planning for your future and what you need to get from a divorce settlement to achieve your goals. 

4. Respect parenting roles.

Under the Illinois Statutes, child time-sharing arrangements encourage both parents to remain active and involved with their children. In negotiating these arrangements, recognize that regardless of your personal feelings towards your spouse, they are still capable of being a good parent to your child. 

5. Take care of yourself.

Divorce can be a lonely and isolating experience. Seek support from family, friends, and professionals as needed. Make maintaining your physical and emotional health a top priority. Taking good care of yourself during this difficult time makes it easier to have a more friendly divorce. 

Our Chicago Divorce Attorneys are Here to Help 

At the Women’s Divorce and Family Law Group, you can have confidence in our ability to protect your rights in a divorce, allowing you to take a more friendly approach. To request a confidential consultation, call or contact our Chicago divorce attorneys online today.