Strategies for Getting Through a High-Conflict Divorce

Going through a divorce is never easy, but it is more difficult in some cases than others. There are a number of issues that can arise and cause serious disputes between you and your spouse, making the situation very stressful and emotionally draining. At the Women’s Divorce and Family Law Group, our Illinois divorce attorneys provide the trusted legal guidance and caring support clients need in these cases. The following are strategies we recommend that can help you get through a high-conflict divorce. 

Common Causes of Conflict During Divorce

When getting a divorce, there are serious issues under the Illinois statutes that must be resolved before a final order can be issued in your case. A high conflict divorce may stem from disagreements regarding these issues or from other circumstances surrounding the break up of your marriage. Among the most common causes include: 

• Disputes over division of marital property, assets, and debts;
• Disputes over child time-sharing arrangements and proposed parenting plans;
• Problems concerning the payment of alimony or child support;
• Allegations of domestic abuse;
• Accusations concerning adultery, addictions, and other types of marital misconduct;
• General bitterness and hard feelings on the part of your spouse;
• A refusal to acknowledge the seriousness of the situation or to participate in the divorce process. 

Protecting Yourself During a High-Conflict Divorce

In cases involving domestic violence, whether they involve physical, emotional, or financial abuse, it is important to let our Illinois divorce attorneys know immediately so that the appropriate precautions can be taken. This may include obtaining an Order of Protection, limiting your soon-to-be spouse’s ability to contact or otherwise get access to you. 

In other types of situations, you may not be in danger but a high-conflict divorce can still take a major toll on your physical and mental health. Strategies that can help you get through these types of divorce proceedings include: 

• Limit contact with your spouse;
• Insist all communications go through your divorce attorney;
• In court, make an effort to not respond to their outbursts;
• Keep your expectations realistic;
• Realize that the problem is them, not you;
• Look forward and plan for the future, when they no longer have any power or influence in your life;
• Take care of yourself, making sure you eat healthy and get enough rest;
• Enlist the support of your family and friends;
• Do not hesitate in seeking therapy, if needed. 

Our Illinois Divorce Attorneys are Here to Help

Going through a high-conflict divorce is draining. At The Women’s Divorce and Family Law Group, we provide caring support and professional legal representation you can count on during this difficult time in your life. Call or contact our Illinois divorce attorneys online and request a consultation to discuss how we can help today.