Parenting Plans for Teens

For parents, one of the biggest concerns when going through a divorce is the impact it will have on their children. With little ones, explaining it in simple terms while making plans for them is generally the best course of action. Dealing with older children who better understand what is going on and the implications involved can prove more challenging. One of their major concerns will likely be child custody arrangements and any parenting plans that are negotiated. The following offers tips on ways to protect them while also including them in the process. 

Divorce and Your Teen

Children react to news of an impending divorce differently based on their age. Young children may get confused, clingy with their parents, and show concern about the family as a whole. Psychology Today warns that adolescents and teens are more likely to get angry, sullen, and withdrawn while focusing on themselves and how the situation will ultimately affect them. 

It is common for them to feel sad, worried about both you and the other parent, and concerned about what a divorce means for their future. Rather than sharing these feelings with you, they are more likely to reach out to a trusted friend. Important questions a divorce may raise in their minds include: 

• Will they need to move? 
• Will they need to change schools?
• Will they have to make new friends?
• Will they still have time for sports and recreational activities?
• How will this affect their college plans?

Realizing these issues are important to them and keeping them at the forefront in any arrangements made can help your teen better adjust to the situation. 

Including Teens in Parenting Plans

The Illinois Statutes detail factors a judge is likely to consider in approving any custody arrangements made during your divorce. Making sure the child’s best interests are served and that both parents have the ability to provide for them is a concern at any age. With older children, giving them a say in these arrangements can help them feel less anxious. While parents ultimately make the final decision, areas in which you may seek their input include: 

• How time is divided between each parent’s home during the week;
• Weekend arrangements, taking into consideration the teen’s need for a social life;
• How holidays, birthdays, and other special occasions will be handled;
• Extended visits over school breaks. 

Reach Out to Our Chicago Child Custody Attorneys

At the Women’s Divorce and Family Law Group, you can trust our reputation as a nationally recognized family law firm to guide you when making parenting arrangements for your children. To schedule a consultation, contact our Chicago child custody attorneys today.