April 09, 2015
Divorce is typically not a pleasant subject. People are dealing with many types of issues when they go through divorce and just the fact that they are experiencing a failed marriage can be the most difficult aspect. While some couples both agree that it’s time to move on, and that living apart is the best option, other times one spouse may not be ready to split up or he or she may hold the other spouse responsible for the marriage crumbling. Those types of feelings can lead to animosity and hard feelings, which can make for an angry ex.
Don’t Get Angry
So what should you do if your ex-husband is angry and bitter over your failed marriage and subsequent divorce? First of all, during the divorce, as hard as it may be, try not to respond to your ex’s anger in a similar manner. Reacting to his anger with more anger or spite will only serve to cause more hurt feelings and prolong the divorce process. That can be emotionally draining as well as more expensive because it takes longer to reach a settlement. Instead educate and prepare yourself and choose to be in control of your own actions, because you cannot control his.
Stay Away From Conflict
Avoid any fighting or physical contact with your ex that could be used against you as an accusation of abuse. Avoid any and all kinds of conflict. Simply ignore and focus on what you can control. In the event that someone becomes violent or abusive towards you, you should immediately call 911 and seek emergency assistance. Contact a lawyer second. In many instances, a Judge will ask the question in court: “If the incident was so serious why didn’t you call the police?” Don’t let that question even come up; but even more importantly, you should protect yourself.
Get a Good Attorney
Another action you can take is to hire the right Chicago divorce lawyers to help you if your angry ex-husband tries to slow down the divorce process and abuse the system. The right lawyer will know how to use the Family Court system to get results from an uncooperative spouse. Also, always be sure to get any verbal agreements between you and your ex on paper in the form of a legal document. Your lawyer can help you with this as well.
Helping You Get Results
At the law office of the Women’s Divorce & family Law group in Chicago our experienced divorce lawyers are prepared to get you the results you seek. We can help coach you through the entire divorce process, including dealing with an angry spouse. Don’t go through this battle alone. Call us today at 312-445-8830 for help, or contact us online.
This is not intended to be legal advice and this should only be considered general information. You should always contact an attorney to decide what is best for you in your particular case and circumstances.